Vivian Louise Red Corn Havenstrite ”1937 - 2024”

Vivian Louise Red Corn Havenstrite

Death Is Nothing At All It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before. How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again! Henry Scott-Holland

Vivian Louise Red Corn Havenstrite, age 87, died peacefully surrounded by family on Saturday, July 20, 2024. Vivian was born April 13, 1937, in Indian Camp on the Osage Reservation in Pawhuska to Douglas and Joy Red Corn. She was a member of the Tzi-Zhu-Wah-Schtah-Gi (Peace Maker) clan and was the first surviving girl born in the Red Corn family "in well over 100 years." She was given the name Huh-lah-to-me (Good Eagle Woman) by Chief Fred Lookout. She was also a member of the Seneca-Cayuga Tribe. She attended St. Louis School for Osage Indian Girls, in Pawhuska, and the Seneca Indian School, in Wyandotte. Vivian moved frequently as a young girl into her early twenties from Pawhuska to Tennessee, Tulsa, and Chicago, before finally settling in Tulsa after meeting the love of her life in 1960. Vivian and Chester met and quickly fell in love in December, and following a short courtship, were married on January 19, 1962. "Benny and Bib", as they were known by family and friends, were best friends and grew a love for one another that was unwavering. They spent their first years together riding around town in one of Benny's sports cars, making life long friendships, and spending time with and reconnecting with family. Their house soon grew with the addition of their two sons, Van and Jonas. Their life from that point on was all about the boys. They made certain that they were raised with love, surrounded by their grandmothers and dozens of aunts, uncles, and cousins. Together they enjoyed many summers traveling, attending pow-wows, and later at the baseball fields, and traveling the country attending track meets. As their boys grew older and started families of their own, "Grandma and Grandpa" extended that same love to their grandchildren and could be found in the stands enthusiastically cheering them on. Benny and Bib spent their first years of marriage in Tulsa but later moved to Verdigris where they became active volunteers supporting their boys and made many lifelong friends. While in Verdigris, Vivian worked as a proofreader for the Claremore Progress and later for the Claremore Indian Hospital working as an audiometric technician until her retirement. In 1984 they moved back to Tulsa to their house on Toledo Avenue where they would spend the rest of their lives together. Their home was a house of love and filled laughter and a steady flow of friends and family coming to visit or celebrate the holidays. When the house was quiet, Vivian could be found working on her latest basket. Her baskets won numerous awards and were displayed in several museums in Oklahoma over the years. She was an active member of the Basketweavers Guild of Oklahoma. Vivian was preceded in death by her parents and brothers Chris and Dudley Red Corn. She is survived by sister in law Gwen RedCorn (Tulsa, Oklahoma), sister Mary Grimes (Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania), sister Peggy McFarland (Saint Anthony, Idaho), brother Jon RedCorn, sister in law Bobbie Redcorn (Knoxville, Tennessee) son and daughter in law, Van and Sarah Havenstrite, son Jonas Havenstrite, grandsons Seth, Ian, and Christopher Havenstrite, granddaughter and husband Hope and Monty LaRoque, granddaughters Grace, Joy, Stella, and Ruby Havenstrite, granddaughter Kymber Raines, great grandchildren Phoenix, Kyden, Keelie, and Asher LaRoque, and many loving nieces, nephews, and cousins. Funeral arrangements are with Moore Funeral Homes, Southlawn Chapel, 9350 East 51st, Tulsa, Oklahoma. Visitation - Friday, July 26 from 6:00 to 8:00pm Viewing - Saturday, July 27 from 8:00 to 9:30am Graveside services - Saturday July 27 at 10:00am at Memorial Park Cemetery, 5111 S Memorial Drive, Tulsa The family would like to express our thanks for the wonderful and compassionate care given by the nurses and staff of the Saint Francis Oncology Unit and Saint Francis Hospice. To send flowers or a memorial gift to the family of Vivian Louise Havenstrite please visit our Sympathy Store. Resource: Moore Funeral Homes

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